Women’s Underworlds Are Interpersonal

How Women can enter Reality and Source Regenerative Culture together through Offers from their Underworlds.

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When you are comparing yourself with another woman, and jealousy is happening - it is relational and specific between you and that woman. It is an underworld game between your underworld and the other woman’s. It is an offer of war, part of the way that patriarchy continues between women.

Creating a different culture starts in the ashes of patriarchy. Let the patterns that sustained that culture die within yourself and between others. Then begin to see the green shoots of something else emerge.

Here’s how:

Phases Of Underworld Work - A Guide For Women Sourcing Authentic Sisterhood

Phase negative one

You remain numb. You exist in your reactivity, stories and believe it is reality and the only way to handle living with other women. That you are right and right to be right - so are totally identified with your underworld.

Phase 0

A crack of some sort happens. You start to feel something that is too painful to ignore. You start to question your own rightness - perhaps there is something more going on beneath the surface? You start to gently examine it. Maybe you do this in meditative states, journaling or in conversation with friends. You can start to notice patterns in other people’s underworlds, which gives you a clue to what might be happening in you. It is mostly a detached, conceptual process, where you are not directly touched by what you see or notice - it is more of ‘ooh, that explains what might be going on’.

This is where a lot of ‘woke’ or new age circles stay. It is where women can talk about their wounds and analyze the situation, FOR YEARS AND YEARS. Yet, you remain looping in the same level of consciousness. There is no ‘juice’ behind the observations. You might even start to leave conversations, spaces, or a journaling session with an ‘ick’ sensation. Depleted instead of being fed. These sorts of encounters end by ‘sending love’ or ‘oh well, sister I know what you are saying is about you, not me, bye”.

Your ‘despondence’ is the doorway to the next phase. You start to question, “surely this is not it, surely there must be more?” A sadness, rage or icy fear starts to gather in your heart. It is the juice you have been searching for. I want to show you how you can go further.

Phase 1

You start to FEEL the true impact of your underworld and the outcomes it is creating in your life. It is at this phase you also get to feel the impact of another woman’s underworld when it is active in relation to you. This is the disillusionment phase, a precious liquid state, where the underworld of women (including your own) become visible, you can feel your grief, outrage, fear at what is being created between you and other women. You are no longer side-stepping the ‘pain’ of active underworld transactions.

This is the phase where you also start to access the ‘pleasure’ your underworld gets in doing what it does. You are able to access and viscerally feel your core wound, because protecting it is where your underworld is sourcing all its energy. You get to actually ‘see’ as if for the first time, what drives you to create the patterns that you do.

You start to learn you can live and even thrive in becoming disillusioned every hour of every day, because every layer you feel unleashes precious energy for yourself and your life that used to be caught in analyzes or unconscious, underworld exchanges with women. You get your freedom back, your freedom to hit bottom and be with reality.

As a side note: this is where many relationships between women can end - i.e. the pain that the active underworld is bringing to the surface starts to push women away from each other. For example, if a relationship is showing you your core wound that you are not enough, then every time you are in contact with that woman, you experience the flare up of “i am not enough”. In an attempt to not face that, often women choose to not be in contact with each other. This is not wrong either, sometimes diversions are important for both women’s evolution. What is also possible is staying with the intensity of that experience, in contact with that exact woman, who is showing this part of yourself.

In this phase it is important to have many held spaces with experienced spaceholders to help you consciously feel and stay present with your feelings. This takes practice, an attuned other with the skills to navigate away from stories and into your authentic feelings.

This is an incredibly empowering stage, you start to embody the distinction that YOUR FEELINGS ARE FOR YOU to create in every moment.

Phase 2

You can stay present with what you are feeling. When your underworld becomes active while in connection with the other woman, you can keep your heart open and allow yourself to feel what happens when you lay your underworld on the table with her. If the other woman can also stay present with you and let your communication land in her heart she feels everything it does to her. Both your hearts can truly break. You can now use underworld offers from yours and other women as doorways to hitting bottom together, exiting analyse, conceptualization and instead, induce the authentic liquid states that give you the chance to build something else together.

For example.

In a recent space one woman revealed how she was not able to authentically celebrate another woman because she was comparing herself to her, her underworld was judging herself for not being as ‘good’ as the other woman. Now the door was open to each woman to truly let their hearts break at what is being revealed.

To get access to their:

Fear and sadness that separation is being created.

Anger that their underworlds are slowly gathering the energy and evidence to destroy each other.

Joy at the intensity of this aliveness between each other.

When an underworld is active between women it can be incredibly subtle - this happens like thousands of paper cuts, and it is wounding. So as to transform we need the wisdom in each other’s hearts to show what is truly happening.

Our underworld’s become visible in contact with other women. When we can let the impact of another woman’s underworld break our heart, we uncover the information and energy we need to source the culture each woman longs to build. As women we get the chance to evolve into something beyond patriarchy together.

Right now, I am using my sadness, anger and fear that becomes available to me when I let my heart break over the separation and self violence women’s (and mine) underworlds can create to write this to you. As an offer of sisterhood into a different culture.

I care about building regenerative cultures beyond war with you and I want to discover how it goes.

Love,

Millicent